You think you're being obvious. You're not.
In this clip, body language expert Vanessa Van Edwards and Jay Shetty break down what actually happens in the seconds before someone decides whether to approach you and the study that counted every flirtation signal in a room full of singles.
Vanessa explains why the most attractive people in the room get approached less than everyone else, why your voice gives away your confidence in the first fraction of a second, and the one-word opener she wants you to try on anyone, anywhere.
Learn about the difference between being interesting and being available, the question she asks instead of "how are you", and the three-step exit for a conversation you want out of.
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Chapters
0:00 — How to signal interest without giving it away
0:27 — Signal amplification bias
1:03 — The 29 signals it takes to get approached
2:05 — Why availability beats attractiveness
2:59 — The flirty glance, demonstrated
4:34 — The white t-shirt smell study
5:41 — The one word that changes everything
6:55 — What your first 200 milliseconds says about you
10:33 — Finding the lowest end of your voice
14:31 — Context cues and the me-too moment
17:42 — What every popular kid had in common
21:29 — Why compliments push people away
26:12 — Turning small talk into a guessing game
31:10 — The art of a graceful exit
33:24 — The triple nod
38:07 — The car challenge
41:21 — The fear sweat study
44:20 — Warmth vs. competence
50:02 — Charisma or narcissism
56:11 — The question that beats "how are you"
Watch the FULL episode on Netflix & Spotify 🎙️
Netflix - https://dub.sh/QaUsKeD
Spotify - https://dub.sh/axUXylv
Full Episode With Vanessa Van Edwards:
https://youtu.be/d3fkpYlR7fU
Episode Resources
https://www.scienceofpeople.com/
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https://www.youtube.com/@Vvanedwards
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