You don't need to find the right person. You need to stop looking for the spark.
In this clip, Logan Ury and Jay Shetty break down the three dating tendencies the romanticizer, the maximizer and the hesitator and why almost nobody can spot their own.
Logan argues that most people have the math backwards. They think finding love is 95% who you pick and 5% the effort you put in. Her research says it's closer to 25% and 75%. She also shares why 69% of Gen Z say they're not ready for a relationship they actually want, and the gap between what men think women need and what women say they want.
Learn about the Post-Date 8, the eight questions to ask yourself after every date, and why the question is never "did I find them attractive" but "did I feel attractive around them."
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Chapters
0:00 — The three dating tendencies
0:45 — The maximizer who can never settle
1:04 — Why the hesitator never starts
1:32 — Why she doesn't believe in "the one"
1:48 — 25% who you choose, 75% effort
2:08 — The dating blind spot you can't see
3:17 — 69% of Gen Z say they're not ready
3:46 — The provider myth men still believe
4:58 — What women actually mean by effort
6:48 — The Post-Date 8
8:09 — Why the slow burn beats the spark
10:45 — What matters less than you think
12:10 — Kindness, stability, and fighting well
14:44 — The biggest lie we've been sold in love
15:56 — When the spark is actually anxiety
Watch the FULL episode on Netflix & Spotify 🎙️
Netflix - https://dub.sh/QaUsKeD
Spotify - https://dub.sh/axUXylv
Full Episode With Logan Ury:
https://youtu.be/QyvlmjuRDII
Episode Resources:
Website | https://www.loganury.com/
Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/loganury
LinkedIn | linkedin.com/in/loganury/
The Later Daters: https://www.netflix.com/ph-en/title/81665880
